No new person may seem to compare and nothing may appear to be as meaningful. When a relationship ends, you may become more aware of what can be done or learn what to avoid the next time.
It's not only advantageous to learn from the past, it's absolutely crucial.
I'm sure she was preparing to break up the final 2 weeks of the relationship, so my feelings are definitely ahead of hers. I've always been someone that goes after what I want.
I want to start over and take it slow as it was an amazing relationship. I'm still wrestling with waiting for her to contact me or whether or not to go LC?
After a break-up, there can be the initial horrible nightmare stage.
Thoughts such as "I can't believe this is happening! ", and "I wonder who he's with now..." begin to run rampant in your head. The question remains what should I do now that the relationship is over? It's normal and often necessary to work through the loss of a significant relationship.
Vaughan considered that the process of breakup was asymmetrical for initiator and respondent: the former 'has begun mourning the loss of the relationship and has undertaken something tantamount to a rehearsal, mentally and, to varying degrees, experientially, of a life apart from the partner'.
She's affraid that she is just the next woman I date. After a month she starts to pull back and says she wants to slow down. The next three weeks she pulls back to the point where we aren't affectionate and are hardly flirting anymore. Tells me she doesn't feel good about us and that we should end the relationship before anyone gets hurt. These insecurities will keep arising within a relationship anyway regardless of the reassurance you dish out... because of her age, I would say she would be avoiding get emotionally involved with someone who is a serial dater.
I come from a wealthy upbringing, she is insecure about being in debt and coming from a different upbringing. At this point I am hurt because I genuinely have strong emotions towards her and we have an amazing amount of similarities. We broke up on good terms but haven't spoken since. ...sooner or later you WILL get sick of it and you WILL lose interest and then you will break her heart. I know that personally, I'm thinking about the next 5 years, babies etc, as time is ticking, and i don't want a waste months or years in a relationship that i know is going nowhere.
We have mutual friends, so I know we will see each other again. If I am going to have a family, I need to be dating people who are also heading in this direction. Even if we never get back together, I'm not sure that I can live with myself for not telling her that I want to give us another chance or taking the steps to allow for a second chance.
With the end of a long term serious relationship you may need months to get back to a place where you are self-satisfied, happy and able to really evaluate how good of a prospective new partner a date may be.
Look for these five signs in yourself that will let you know that you are in a good place to start dating again.