There are variations of this common question being asked around this site.
The common scenarios are: You’ve broken up with him and now he’s dating someone else and they look so happy together.
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He said he didn’t want to be in a relationship and now he’s flaunting his latest. The fact that you’re asking this says that you still want him even though he’s demonstrated that he doesn’t see the value in you or being with you, plus that you’re obsessing about him and the relationship, and that you don’t want to move on because often when we ask these questions, they are with regard to men who probably aren’t worthy of our time.
He said he wasn’t going to choose you over his wife/girlfriend and now he’s got a replacement Other Woman. Now, I’m not going to say that it’s not a question that doesn’t run through many a person’s mind but when it becomes damn near an obsession and it prevents you from letting go and focusing on you, something is very wrong.
And my answer is the same today as it was then: its when you stop thinking about yourself first. Getting a cockapoo, even though he doesn't want one. I'm the first to tell anyone, you can't skate in doubles until you can skate on your own. Clearly, that is not the situation he'd be attracted to.Assuming we are not talking about other women or partners, I have to begin by referring back to an idea I referenced in a past article, When Your Girl Wants to Get Married and You Don't. He would have fought to get you onboard with his busy schedule. To put it as clearly as I can, had he wanted the relationship to work, the excuse of his busy schedule would be non-existent. If this had been the right guy for you, I don't see how his being busy would be a deal-breaker. And he feels exactly the same way about me; I am his One & Only. Real moments, where you think about what's best for him, and what he would want.You said your inability to deal with his busy schedule was a factor. I can not imagine that in your heart you were saying, "This is Mr. But since he has a hectic life, it's not worth it for me to be with him. And you are willing (at least half of the time) to actually put his real needs before yours: Living in the city where he works instead of the countryside where you'd prefer to be. Not spending Christmas with your family for the first time in your life, because it's his turn that you both spend Christmas with his family.He said he didn’t want to get married and now he’s engaged or married. If you are obsessing about the relationship, him, the who, what, why’s and when’s, the shoulda, woulda, couldas, and the can’t, won’t, don’ts, you are either in standstill or regressing into the past because You are putting yourself at the centre of his decision to be with someone else or his actions after you. It’s not about her because you are two different people and the likelihood is that if he was effed up when you were with him and he’s taken up with someone else, he hasn’t changed which means that there is something about the relationship with her that let’s him believe that he can continue being himself.He said he wouldn’t leave his wife and now he has…for a different girl. In reality, that’s giving yourself too much credit for impact, and him too much credit for actually having that much connection to his thoughts! You also need to remember that with men who habitually mess women around, they ALWAYS blow hot at first which means that when you are losing your mind obsessing over him, he’s going through the same hot phase that he treated YOU to at the beginning.